No Excuses Coaching with Ryan Montis & Alanna Banks

Weird Stuff Coaches Do: Part 1

October 16, 2023 Ryan Montis & Alanna Banks Season 4 Episode 5
No Excuses Coaching with Ryan Montis & Alanna Banks
Weird Stuff Coaches Do: Part 1
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Mushroom coffee. Vision boards. Cold plunges. This week, we're talking about the weird habits of coaches that might seem odd but are actually powerful tools for personal and professional development. 

It's a fun discussion about the lesser-known practices of coaches that can potentially up-level your life. 

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Speaker 1:

Hey Ryan.

Speaker 2:

Hey, what's happening.

Speaker 1:

Not much. Well, we're recording the podcast. That's what's happening.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, we got to do that, we're going to do it.

Speaker 1:

So this morning I I listened to my sound frequencies, which is something that I was doing for a really long time, and I kind of got off, got off track. But I I put them in this morning and this is something that you know, I think is like totally normal. But whenever I tell people that I listen to sound frequencies, they're like that's weird. What do you mean? Sound frequencies?

Speaker 2:

Yes, sound frequencies aren't all sounds frequencies.

Speaker 1:

I mean yes, but these are specific sound frequencies. Like what are they? Sol fiego.

Speaker 2:

Sol fegio. Yeah sol fegio.

Speaker 1:

Sol fegio.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah. You know what's crazy I was used to like. A long time ago, you sent me your playlist of frequencies and I happened to be listening to it yesterday morning.

Speaker 1:

You know, that's cool.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah it's. But yeah, it's like to you and I, normal everyday thing to do Fire up some weird frequencies, listen to them, let them resonate through our cells and we're better for it. But to regular people, or average, to your average Joe, you're right, that might sound weird.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

And so I guess that brings us to the topic of today's episode on the no Excuses coaching podcast, which is stuff that coaches do, and it's just normal for us that average people, or maybe people who are not in the personal development or in the coaching industry, oftentimes think is weird.

Speaker 1:

Yeah we have a list.

Speaker 2:

We have a list.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I love all of these actually.

Speaker 2:

The cool thing about going through this list is that, like for those people that are listening, either you're going to get to validate your experience, because the thing you're already doing You're already doing is on the list, or you're going to get a new weird thing to try or multiple right. So win, win. You can't lose listeners.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, a new weird thing you can add to your weird things. I do list. Yeah, we're starting off easy though we're like easing into it.

Speaker 2:

This is the like weird things that coaches do that they pretend is totally normal to do.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it's a valid argument to say these are normal things to do.

Speaker 1:

Absolutely.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Well, and what got us thinking about this is you brought up something that I forgot about, which was like this kind of trend a few years ago, where it was like weird things like white people do.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, there was that book. It was called like things white people do, or things white people like, or something like that.

Speaker 1:

And then I think it is branched out to like all the other ethnicities as well, which was also hilarious.

Speaker 2:

I think, oh, hold on, I'm checking my database, which is what I call the Internet Stuff white people like stuff likecom, and then there's a book as a website and there's a book, so I'm not getting into that.

Speaker 1:

No.

Speaker 2:

But I guess this is stuff coaches like stuff coaches like yeah, that's a good, that's a good maybe that's the title for this episode. Stuff coaches like yeah Cool, all right.

Speaker 1:

Let's get into another. That's a book for our merch store.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, the stuff coaches like book, the subtitle for the book stuff white people like is the definitive guide to the unique taste of millions. All right, it's kind of clever. Okay, so let's get into our list Number one on the list and these are going to go from kind of least surprising to kind of more obscure, I think.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

First couple. You know a lot of people do these.

Speaker 1:

I would say, these are more mainstream now, yeah, no-transcript stuff.

Speaker 2:

coaches like this is like stuff that a lot of non coaches and and sort of entry level personal development people like to. The first two and then right from number three forward it's a little bit more niche. So one is your vision board. Having your vision board, ladies and gentlemen, that's always like the butt of the joke, right?

Speaker 1:

That's like.

Speaker 2:

I don't hear people in the mainstream like doing vision boards. But this is like movies like talk about, like oh, my weird aunt, well, I'll tell my weird aunt to put that your goal on her vision board to make it come true. Like you know, there's a lot of I've heard vision boards being the punchline of a lot of jokes, but hey, I mean pretty normal everyday stuff for somebody use and really the personal development or coaching, because we understand, you know, the connection between keeping something in your conscious awareness by having it in a you know, displayed in your, in the space that you work or live in, and that connection from that to actual results.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I feel like the new thing is just having a photo on your home screen of your of your phone. That's kind of like the new vision board that I've been hearing about.

Speaker 2:

Oh, okay. Not having a say your phone on your phone, but having like your vision board digitally on your phone.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, like as the back screen. So like say you want to go to Peru or something like that, and that's like a dream that you have. Then you would have like a photo In the background of your you know home screen.

Speaker 2:

You'd have Peru there or something like that you know it's crazy is that my background on my phone is the planet earth, and wouldn't you know it? That's exactly where I live. It's come true. I didn't even realize that until now.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

Boom.

Speaker 1:

I don't even know what my background is the moment. How do we even see that?

Speaker 2:

you just look at your phone with your eyes.

Speaker 1:

You know, I can't see it, it's all blurred. Anyway, it was better.

Speaker 2:

So your future is uncertain, then it is unclear. Okay, number next we get a lot of these to get through. Number two Gratitude journal. Gratitude journal. I've done that, you've done that. Everyone's listening to this as try to gratitude journal at some point or another. I think there's different kinds of journals. You know I like future-pacing journals. Gratitude journals are good. I think there's actual scientific evidence that Supports the idea that if you reflect on the things that are going right in your life, it actually changes. You know the way your mind functions to be more positive and you get more of the stuff that you like. So there's a lot of, a lot of anecdotal evidence that this one works and scientific evidence as well. And but I mean Again, it's something that kind of might sound weird to somebody who's not in this world, right Like I. You know, before I, as soon as I got out of bed, before I start my day, I just sit down and write a list of all the things I like, you know yeah maybe weird a little weird.

Speaker 1:

My favorite thing to do with journals because I'm a journal or is I go back and I read them. I love it like sometimes I'll just, like you know, like go through like randomly and pick a page and read it like, oh wow, so interesting. It's like a little novel of your life, hmm.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it's kind of cool to do sometimes oh all right.

Speaker 1:

Another weird thing but I guess coaches do is read their own journals.

Speaker 2:

Refer back to your journal, I don't know. Okay, let's go to the next one. Now we're getting into some and I will say that, like a lot of the stuff on this list I've done and a lot of the stuff on this list I have not done, but I Think all of this stuff on this list I would try. If I haven't done it yet or I would do. Okay, number next. Number three is moon rituals. Moon rituals this is something that I've not really done. I haven't really ever been to or partaken in a ritual that is specifically connected to the phase of the moon or anything to do with the moon. Have you.

Speaker 1:

Every month I do this yeah.

Speaker 2:

Every month you do this, okay, so there you go.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, so every month I do the well, I don't know. Does it happen every month, I don't know, but anytime there's a full moon I do a full moon ritual, which includes lighting candles, writing things that I want to let go of and doing some type of a meditation. I always pull cards. So I love doing the moon rituals and actually the person that I follow to do the moon rituals is a guy named Chris Corsini, who I found during COVID and he does. I pay what you can moon ritual every new moon and every full moon.

Speaker 1:

And it's just a YouTube video. It's like 30 minutes and it's really cool. I love it. But I often do that. Sometimes I'll miss, but most often I will do that. And then on the new moon, that's when you set your intentions, so that's when you write down what you're calling in. And actually on October 26th I'm hosting an event that is going to be kind of like a moon ritual, but we're going to be clearing out a lot of stuff that we're wanting to let go of. That's been with us for the last 19 years, because it's at the end of a 19 year cycle.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, cool, all right.

Speaker 1:

So I really really love the moon rituals.

Speaker 2:

Loving it, searching it. There you go. By the way, if you audience are in the moon rituals, send me a message and convince me to go to a moon ritual. Come to my event.

Speaker 1:

Even though it's like kind of past your bedtime.

Speaker 2:

but yeah, yeah, 9 pm, is that when?

Speaker 1:

it is no, it's 8. I'll send you the recording just because we're, you know, podcast pals.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, definitely winding down around the 8 pm mark. Okay, cool, okay. So moon rituals I'm sure a lot of people in our audience are into moon rituals. No question about that. Number four Number four I've done a lot, a lot, a lot Not as many as some people, but a lot, a lot, a lot of cold showers and ice baths. I've gone like months straight with exclusively cold showers. I've done ice baths here in Canada. I've done them while away on coaching programs.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, this is good stuff. Yeah, I love a good cold plunge.

Speaker 2:

Don't come in regulation and you know there's a lot of. There's a ton of benefits and more and more research coming out about the benefits of cold, cold showers and ice baths. This is one. This is one that's it's not mainstream but it's getting out there more Like Joe Rogan talks about the benefits of ice baths and Andrew Huberman and you know there's Wim Hof now is kind of getting to the point where he's known and just in the public awareness.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

So, yeah, but this is like but you know again, to an average person it's like, hey, you want to jump in a tub full of ice water and just sit there quietly for three minutes. That sounds weird, probably to some people, but to a coach it's like oh yeah, you know, all right, let's just do that.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, let's do it. Actually, I went on a VIP day with a coach and we started our day doing a cold plunge.

Speaker 2:

Yeah. So, that was interesting. Yeah.

Speaker 1:

One hot tip for people who do the cold plunge sauna thing is if you're getting ready for a day of inspiration or creative thinking. You want to end with the cold plunge. If you're wanting to really chill for the day, or maybe you're going to bed afterwards, then you end with the sauna or a hot thing. You would end your cold bath or cold whatever with a hot thing.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I think what you just said was slightly unclear to people who haven't been to one of these facilities. So Alana is describing a place where they have multiple stations and you can do a cold dip and then you can do some kind of hot dip. It might be a hot tub or a sauna or something like that, and it's up to you what order you participate in these, in so she's saying if you want to be all hopped up on energy all day, finish off with the cold.

Speaker 2:

If you want to be rancho relaxo for the rest of the day, finish off with the hot.

Speaker 1:

Is that right? Yes, thank you for notifying that.

Speaker 2:

You bet Scan an avian sposer like that where it's like there'll be a cold station, there'll be a hot station, and some of them have different variations, and then there'll be some of them will have like a rest station where it's just like a neutral temperature. You just like sit by a fire and chill, yeah Cool, all right, there you go. We spent a lot of time on that one. We got 18 of these on the list.

Speaker 1:

I know we got to move it.

Speaker 2:

Maybe this one will need to be like a two-parter episode. Oh, maybe we should do like half now and half next week.

Speaker 1:

Sure, that could be good.

Speaker 2:

I think we should do that I think we should do that because we got a lot and these are kind of fun to.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, they're fun to talk about.

Speaker 2:

Okay, okay, number next. Do you want to read it out?

Speaker 1:

Floating We've talked about this on the podcast before, so floating, which I still. I have a gift certificate to a float tank near my place and I have still not used it since we talked about this the last time on the podcast.

Speaker 2:

I also have a gift certificate to a float facility in Toronto that I have not used. I don't remember if it's the same one that you have your certificate for. It was a very thoughtful gift from somebody who attended one of my hypnosis trainings. So to that person, once again, thank you. I apologize for having not used it yet, but yeah, so I was about to say a sleep deprivation tank. No, not a sleep deprivation tank, a sensory deprivation tank, which is like you float in this tank and I believe it's usually like heavily salinated water. So then like you really float really easily and there's no sound, no light, no odor, no anything to stimulate your senses, and you can just kind of go inward and it could be a meditative experience which hopefully is a relaxing experience and again.

Speaker 2:

This is like something that's like might sound weird, you know regular Joe, but to coach or personal development, not, this just is like oh yeah, you know, let's just deprive our senses for an hour and see what the deep reaches of our unconscious mind present to us.

Speaker 1:

I'm wondering why have I not done this, like it sounds so appealing. It sounds like something that I would love to do, but for whatever reason I've just decided, I don't want to do it.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, why?

Speaker 1:

Maybe we should do an episode where we both go to the float and then we like talk about our experience.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I've heard some pretty crazy experiences from people where they've like seen things and they've had visions and yeah, I wonder if there's one my biggest fear about the float tank is that I'm going to get cold, because I hate being cold in water and I know that it's at body temperature, but I just can't imagine what that feels like, and so I just like don't want to do it because I don't want to be there cold for an hour.

Speaker 2:

I can't imagine that. It's not like very temperature controlled. It must be like, because nobody would go back if you were just floating in cold water, for you know.

Speaker 1:

So I guess it's like temperature controlled at your body temperature, and so I guess I'm just thinking of, like you know, when you go into a bath and then it, like the water temperature goes down, and then you're like, ooh, I need to get out of here.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.

Speaker 2:

There is one relatively proximate where I'm hanging out these days and it's 60 bucks for a single float, or I can get a membership for a certain price per month. I probably won't do that, but cool All right, let's do that. Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Deal.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, let's see. And today is the. I'm just looking at your schedule. It's openings today. We could stop this recording and I could go right now. Yeah, but I won't. I won't do that Nothing. Anyways, all right, cool.

Speaker 1:

Number six.

Speaker 2:

Number next guided meditations and hypnosis. So the general idea of meditation pretty deep into the mainstream these days. But yeah, these guided meditations, and particularly hypnosis meditations or hypnosis, that's a little more niche. Obviously, both of you and I are hypnotherapists, trained and certified hypnotherapists, so these may or may not be using audio recordings to enter deeper states of relaxation or to instill positive affirmations. I think this is one that's like weird for an average person, very normal run in the mill everyday.

Speaker 1:

Very normal.

Speaker 2:

Can actually be for a coach or a personal development nut.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, it's funny actually, because yesterday, or maybe it was on the weekend yeah, on the weekend I got an email from a friend and she had recorded an Akashic records journey and she was just like, hey, I've recorded this for you. I finally was able to get into the records. Here you go, and it was totally like a normal thing. I was like, oh, thank you so much, that's so thoughtful of you for sending me this thing, this journey, into the records. And so I did it and it was awesome.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, cool.

Speaker 1:

So yeah, very normal. But if I just randomly sent that to someone who's not in that space, they'd be like first of all, what is the Akashic records? And second of all, what do you want me to do? Listen to this.

Speaker 2:

Are they to be? Like you're looking in my records, they would think like you're invading their privacy. And like you're down at city hall like looking at old files. Yeah, cool, all right number next.

Speaker 1:

I think I missed this one when I was reviewing the list. What the heck is biohacking, Biohacking.

Speaker 2:

Well, luckily for those that are unaware, we have a definition here it's trying different techniques and technologies to improve one's physical and cognitive performance such as biots infrared saunas. I think also, maybe like red light therapy, would be like an example of biohacking. Oh, and the big one there is on the list, it's the new tropics, right? So, like you know, different experimental or novel supplements that people take to improve performance, or you know whatever, there's a lot of different things that fall under the umbrella.

Speaker 1:

So maybe my heel you would fall under this.

Speaker 2:

It could. Yeah, your heelie device which pumps frequencies into you, not just through sound, but through Every cell of your being.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, every cell of your being.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so biohacking, this one's like super broad biohacking like you know some people like to find, like you know, intermittent fasting as biohacking and they probably wouldn't be wrong, so you know.

Speaker 1:

but yeah, I mean, like here's the thing, I guess those red light things too.

Speaker 2:

Is that an?

Speaker 1:

infrared sauna, the red light?

Speaker 2:

No, it's not the same thing, although an infrared sauna may include red light, Like there's specific like totally unrelated to a sauna, you can get like red light fixtures that shine a specific frequency or specific tone of red light onto you and it has some kind of benefit.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I've been seeing a lot of that lately. You've been seeing a lot of that, or?

Speaker 2:

not a lot.

Speaker 1:

I have been.

Speaker 2:

yeah, a lot like advertisements, yeah yeah, and so I mean, I think the reason that this fits well on this list is because, like your coach, your personal development person, just like anything that falls under the umbrella of biohacking, you're pretty much gonna be open minded to it, at least like hear what it's about. Right, totally. But to like an average person, it's like I give you this list, like oh yeah, you know special diets, infrared saunas, new tropics, you into that? Like you know half of those terms. People are gonna be like what special diets? Like no, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 2:

Thank you Mushroom coffees. Mushroom coffee, right that's another big.

Speaker 1:

Thing.

Speaker 2:

That's a big thing. Lion's mane, get your lion's mane, get your turkey tail, all that stuff. By the way, both of those are non-psychedelic mushrooms. Yes, for those that are listening, cool Number next. I think let's do yeah, so let's do two more.

Speaker 1:

What are we halfway? Oh, 18.

Speaker 2:

Okay, We'll break and then we'll do the rest next week. I love this list, by the way, this is a good place.

Speaker 1:

I love it too. Actually, it was just reading this morning about how, like, if you want to create a life that you love living, you want to write out like a list of things that just bring you joy, that you love to do Right and so like I would probably put many of these things on, but you want to check in with that list almost daily to see, like, am I doing these things?

Speaker 1:

So, this is just like a good reminder, just make me think of what I was reading. Like I should be doing these things more often. And if you're feeling kind of low, then ask yourself oh, maybe I haven't been doing things that you know make me happy.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, definitely.

Speaker 1:

Definitely Bring me joy.

Speaker 2:

Cool. Okay, so number eight. This one's cool.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

I don't really do intentionally, but a lot of people do. Grounding or earthing is walking barefoot on the earth, grass or sand, and it's believed to connect individuals with the earth's energy and provide health benefits. I believe different people have different beliefs on why grounding or earthing is beneficial, to go beyond what's written in this particular definition. But this is something people do. It's something people like I've heard people say you know, I just don't feel well or just don't feel right until I've done my grounding. What are your thoughts? You do ground. Did you go outside barefoot this morning?

Speaker 1:

No, this isn't really something that I do regularly. However, like when I'm up at the cottage that I go to every summer, I love walking barefoot in the sand, like that's just something that I love to do. And another thing that I love doing when I'm up there is, if it rains, I will go out and walk just on the road with my bare feet, because there's just something I don't know, maybe it's the energy. I just love absorbing that energy. But I think also, in addition to this earthing, grounding it's just like getting out into nature, like if you're feeling low or feeling sad, like how can you connect with nature, mother nature? And it doesn't. You don't necessarily, in my opinion, have to take your shoes off, but like go for a walk in a park with lots of trees or, you know, sit on the grass or just be with mother nature. I think that could also be considered grounding, and like it's also uplifting for the soul to recognize that you're part of something much bigger than just whatever you're worrying about in that moment.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

True. I've also heard people say that, like taking a shower is grounding, because you're connecting to the water and the water is connected to the earth. Or like going swimming right. Yeah.

Speaker 1:

You can do that. Yeah, cool, yeah, that's a good one. Sometimes, honestly, I'll just go stand on my front porch and just take a few deep breaths and just be like, if I'm feeling frazzled or frustrated or like overwhelmed, yeah Right, that's the thing. I think that's grounding.

Speaker 2:

I think that's neighborhood People know it's just every now and then. You see, you know Ms Banks just pop out onto the porch, point her palms up at the sky, take deep breaths, maybe scream loudly, and then just go right back in the house, Totally normal.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, okay, cool. Number next, which is number nine, which will be our last one for this episode. We'll do the remainder of this list and, by the way, the list gets kind of even more interesting in the second half. The first half is kind of like tame, the second half, you know, we start to get into some interesting things. Number nine silent retreats. This is something that I have considered doing, have never done, I don't know if I will. Silent retreats are spending several days or even weeks without speaking or communicating, often in a secluded location, with the intent of deepening self-awareness and mindfulness or whatever, or whatever other benefit that is associated. This is interesting, yeah, like these posted here in Canada. You can go and do like a 10-day silent meditation retreat and it's silent, like there is no talking, there's no communication, You're not allowed to have a smartphone or a computer or anything. It's just like quiet contemplation.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, you know, I would love to do that, I would absolutely love to do that. I don't like.

Speaker 2:

I'm usually open for anything, try anything, as long as you know if it's personal development or, you know, personal betterment related. But I don't know Like I wouldn't even want to just like sit in a room alone quietly for an hour, which is something we've talked about before, let alone like several days. I don't know, I think I would just be like painfully bored.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, but I feel like you would. I feel like you would like reach this breaking point. Yes, I agree, I think I would be so bored too, but I think I would get to this point where I just am elated, or I think you would get a lot of downloads. I wonder if, on these retreats, if you're allowed to journal, you must be able to.

Speaker 2:

It probably depends on the retreat. Maybe some you can and some you can't.

Speaker 1:

Yeah. I think it would be weird if you're with people and you're all being silent and you can't communicate. I think that would be a challenge for me.

Speaker 2:

Especially if, like, you're just looking at each other and like making eye contact and you have like 16 awake hours per day. There's no talking. Yeah, silent retreats. Okay. So there's number nine. If you've been on a silent retreat and it was marvelous. Let us know If you've been on a silent retreat and like it was awful and you hated it, let us know about that.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, cool list. I'm excited for next week.

Speaker 2:

I'm excited for next week.

Speaker 1:

Maybe we'll add a bonus too. I feel like over the next week I'm going to think of something.

Speaker 2:

Oh yeah, like there's probably, like you know, we have 18, you know, amongst the half one and half two of the list is probably a thousand like weird things that coaches love that regular people just wouldn't get, yeah, what do regular people do?

Speaker 1:

I'm wondering.

Speaker 2:

They watch TV. Nothing against regular people, by the way. I love regular people. I just mean like when I say regular people, this is my loving way of saying like people who are not super into the personal development and coaching, well yeah. I don't know, I don't know. I haven't been a regular person for a long time, so I don't even know what they do. Yeah, okay, like going to the gym is not on this list because that's something that like even for a person.

Speaker 2:

Even if they don't do it, they get it Like then. Like you know, it's not this foreign thing, right, yeah, yeah, cool, all right. So let's get to part one. Make sure you all tune in for part two, the stunning conclusion, yeah. So join the simple social sanctuary RyanMontuscom. Join Alana's Ascension Circle.

Speaker 1:

Yes, yes.

Speaker 2:

And yeah, anything else to add, lana Banks.

Speaker 1:

Well, if you're into moon rituals, also sign up for my Metonic Lunar Eclipse event on October 26th. You can find info about it in my Instagram at AlanaBanksCoaching.

Speaker 2:

Yes, cool, love it. All right, that's it for this one. All right, that's it for this one. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Thanks for watching. Bye, bye, yeah.

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